Sorry, but I don’t agree that delaying a child support payment is the way to go, for the simple fact that it directly affects children in an adverse way. That shouldn’t be a goal.
I do agree that we must all take action and speak up to make our voices be heard. I am in the process of doing the following:
- Writing to my legislators at least once or twice a month. I let them know how family law issues affect our family, and give them stories from other families. I make a point to introduce myself to my legislators when they are in town, and attempt to engage them in a discussion regarding family law issues. I am always cordial and polite, yet to the point.
- I have agreed to host a new chapter of an established organization called R-KIDS of Minnesota (Remember Kids in Divorces) in my town so that other non-custodial parents can join and make their voices and stories told. The mission of this org is to change legislation regarding family law issues, i.e. child support, maintenance, med insurance, parenting time, etc.
- I keep track of what other organizations in my area/state are doing, such as the battered womens groups. They seem to be doing the most harm towards non-custodial parents in this state, because of their claims that most “men are abusers or potential abusers” and don’t deserve access to their kids. You know the drill.
- Read Sun Tzu, “The Art of War”. Sun Tzu was an ancient chinese leader who taught perfected the art of strategy. This is “bible” for many military leaders in history and can be used to help nearly anyone achieve their goals when in “war”. It doesn’t promote violence, but is a more goal-oriented book. Read it…its so simple to understand and will enlighten you on “how to win”.
- Keep track of what is going on in legislation, task forces, supreme court opinions, etc. Our state currently has a 2-year child support guidelines review task force sponsored by the state human services agency. I requested copies of minutes of their monthly meetings, and I write to members of the task force to voice my opinion. The final report will be presented to the legislature in January.
- Write letters to the editor. Eventually you will get published.
- Write to TV/radio reporters and let them know how you feel. It works. The other day a twin cities tv station did a story on “femicide” and reported how many women and children had been killed because of domestic violence. I immediately emailed the reporter to ask why she didn’t include any numbers for MEN who had been killed bc of DV. She wrote back and said that she had been bombarded by letters from men who wondered the same thing. Now she is planning to do a story on “battered men” and domestic violence!!! We have exchanged several emails since then and I am providing her with more sources and contacts.
There is a lot we can do to make our voices be heard. Do your best and don’t give up. The squeaky wheel gets the grease first…that’s why the laws are how they are…the feminists have been squeaking for years now. Start squeaking to everyone who will listen, but be polite and knowledgeable. *S*